Seems like an odd question doesn’t it? I mean when you were little your parents might have had that door frame to measure your height each year or maybe every six months. But as we get older the height stops being measured by your parents and the only time it seems to get checked is at the doctors office.
But there are other ways in which we grow. We grow our brains by reading and learning new things. We grow our bodies by eating right and exercise. We can even grow our muscles by lifting weights. We improve our cooking skills by making recipes over and over to the point that you maybe no longer need the recipe.
In my job we have a saying that all mistakes are fixable, it is hard at first. You panic because we are taught that mistakes are bad, but really how else do we learn. We learn and grow by reviewing the mistakes that we make. Because eventually, hopefully we learn and grow.
There is a TV theme song from the 80,s and it starts with “ You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life.” There are hard lessons that we have learn to grow as a person and be the best human being that we can be. Sometimes those lessons that we learn hurt, someone says something to you and it changes how you feel about them, or maybe that person that you thought didn’t care turns out to be the person that you rely on.
As people, we learn, we grow by experience. Sometimes you grow because of the circumstances that surround you. They might be painful or maybe it’s the exact opposite maybe it was a great moment that helped you grow. One of the hardest things, we all face, is hearing that something we did or said hurt someone else. Whatever you said or did broke that other person down a little bit or maybe a lot. It is then that you have to make a choice. DoI learn and grow from the experience and the feedback provided to me or do I close down and ignore what happened. You make a choice to grow and change something about yourself or continue down the same path and say it wasn’t me it was them.
When we take on the attitude of it’s not me it’s them, we stop growing, we stop become stagnant and we risk repeating the actions or comments that hurt.
So, friends, do you want to choose growth or staying stagnant? It’s your choice to make and it’s hard. Growth can be painful for those few minutes but ultimately it will bring you more joy and happiness in the long term.
Until next time,
Juli
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