“In my life”is a song written by John Lennon and Paul McCartney. It’s a song that pops in to my mind from time to time and usually when I am thinking about a friend or a place from my past. after all the first couple of lines of this song is “ There are places I’ll remember All my life though some have changed some forever, not for the better Some have gone and some remain.” It continues on to say “In my life I have loved them all.”
I have lived in multiple places in my life and some hold more memories than other’s. But places are just that they are just a place. What makes it special are the people that you meet when you are there.
Relationships are key in our lives. Whether that relationship is with family, friends or co-workers. How we interact with them and and they interact with us changes how we view them or the situation we are in.
If we are interacting with someone new, how we talk to them or the side of ourself that we present might be different then the side of me that my close friends or family get, but what should always be the same is the time and the attention that we give anyone.
Giving of my time to listen,to learn, to interact, allows for me to learn more about their story and shape another part of my life. It is no longer all about me or my world, it’s become our world. and hence we create places and memories that will remain.
We need to take the time to listen to what a person is not only saying, but sometimes not saying. Sometimes the non verbal is so much louder than the verbal.
We need to realize that people are not going to talk if they don’t think they are going to be heard. Sometimes it’s just more important to sit back and let them tell you their stories without you talking about yours and sometimes they need to hear to hear your story to feel comfortable in telling theirs.
So, my friends, in theses coming weeks I would like to challenge you, to step out of your box, find that person that maybe you want to connect with better or is just quiet in the corner and ask them how they are doing and then wait for an answer. Don’t just ask in passing or walk away before they answer pause let them answer and see what happens. Hopefully you will be blessed by someone.
Until next time,
Juli
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