The other day I was standing in the kitchen and Tuna (my cat) walked in and started talking to me. She clearly wanted my attention and clearly had a story to tell me. Now my meow is okay but clearly it was not fluent. I had no clue what she was trying to tell me.
Now what she was trying to tell me became crystal clear when I walked outside later that day and she had left me a present on the patio. I praised her for leaving it on the dirt of the patio and not bringing her mouse into the house and promptly asked my neighbor to get rid of it as I am still on crutches and the balance to grab a mouse off the ground was probably not going to happen.
I will tell you that I speak bark a lot better than I speak meow. I have had a lot more practice with bark. Tuna has only been with me for 7 months and really it has only been in the last couple of weeks that she has come at me with different meow’s. The first time I clearly understood that she was mad at me for allowing stranger’s in the house. I got that message loud and clear. This last one I was clueless. She was speaking a different language and I just did not understand what she was saying.
The thing of it is, it happens so often, unfortunately we can be speaking the same language and the other person has no idea what we are saying.
When we say it is not okay for someone to talk to us a certain way and someone comes back and says what is the big deal blow it off, it undermines the way you feel about something. It undermines your feelings. Now you have two people that have made you feel unimportant or worse unloved.
The words that we use have meaning, they have value and if we are not careful, we can really hurt someone with those words. But if we choose our words carefully, act with kindness, stop and think about what we are doing we have a chance to build a person up.
Is that not a better idea to build a person up then tear them down? It is so easy to get caught up in the negative and hang out there. But it is so much harder to find the positive so maybe that is the challenge in today’s world. Find the positive, speak the different language then rest of the world.
Until next time,
Juli
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