Life is Messy

Truth be told life is messy, we want our lives to fit into the perfect neat boxes that have no spilage. Life has spilage.

Work blow up in your face, the dog ate your pumpkin bars and the repair bill for your car came to twice as much as what they told you. And that was just your Monday. Sounds like a typical Monday in 2020 in all reality. Then came Tuesday and it seemed to be a repeat of Monday, and you think to yourself am I living in ground hog’s day? No this will get better. Then you realize that this is the end of the month and nothing has gone right that you can remember.

You want to sit down and just give up, you wish that you can just take a break from the reality of the life that is not going the way you think that should be going. Did you ever stop and think that you are exactly where you are supposed to be? That you are supposed to experiencing the messy portions of life so that you love the unmessy portions even more? That you embrace those unmessy situations with more love and joy then you did before or even better that you are able to meet some else in their messy situation and walk with them?

One of the greatest gifts that we have been given is the gift to walk with someone else through the messy portion of their life. It is when they are having a hard time that we can step in and make it easier for them that we can help make it less messy.

It can be as easy as saying hey or dropping off a cup of coffee.  Taking 10 minutes to talk. Small things go a long way. You may not even know that person’s life has become messy, maybe they haven’t told anyone that their depression has flared up and it is almost impossible for them to get out of bed, be that person that gives them a reason to get out of bed for a few minutes that day.  Maybe they have a marriage that is dying or worse a spouse that is abusive and they do not know what to or who to trust, be that person that they can trust. It is hard to be is the middle of the mess and not know how to get out and if you do not have the words to signal for help you risk drowning.

Everyone has some kind mess in their life, the question becomes how we respond to mess. When we set down our own mess, we are given the chance to be the lifeline for someone else.  I was getting gas the other day and a guy was walking through the parking lot and I looked up and smiled and said “Hi”, and he said “you know what you are the first person that smiled at me today.” Be that person that smiles because your mess might not be as messy as someone else’s.

Until next time,

Juli